The Cost of Silence: Anger-Obsession Loop of Anger Suppression, Obsessive Rumination, and Physiological Stress
In this case the Anger-Obsession Loop gives a fresh theoretical perspective that describes that suppression of anger during interpersonal conflict contributes to obsessive rumination and long-term physiological stress leading to a self-defeating loop of thought. This framework criticizes the classical views on anger management and emotional inhibition by demonstrating a key paradox which involves trying to avoid or suppress anger, which only increases its psychological grip, essentially giving the perceived offender a stronger mind. The model is based on the combination of cognitive, neurobiological, and relational concepts and assumes that the anger suppression results in the sustained mental reenactment of the fighting situation, cortisol secretion, and emotional avoidance instead of resolution. The synthesis of these processes, which include cognitive amplification, neuroendocrine cost and relational fixation, provides an integrative paradigm of interpreting and treating the maleficent personal and interpersonal effects of unresolved anger through the Anger-Obsession Loop.
The provided transformative theory is the theory that is able to integrate three processes, largely neglected, into one model: (1) cognitive-amplification influence of unprocessed anger, (2) neuroendocrine expenditures of suppression, and (3) the contention of avoidance in the re-emerging relational fixation. The juxtaposition of these spheres brings into focus the Anger-Obsession Loop as an original input that defines the process of blessing grandly going wrong, psychologically and physiologically, and what the process potentially entails to the clinicians in the formulation of their interventions, and when they seek to exit a dispute.
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